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UPDATED 2025 MAY: At the founding, this service was "100% bounty" — payment literally forbidden until long-term results.
I learned two things from this experiment:
First, there are people who are best served by more routine paths, like talk therapy or self-help apps, and then there are people who are serious.
Second, even with serious people, results require both our inputs: my insight and your effort.
The structure now reflects this.
Payment is committed: half at beginning, and half at bounty, at the time of your genuine satisfaction with results.
You may choose from two tiers:
$12k — for 8 weeks of advising, with substantial take-home work
$30k — for 8 weeks of premium advising, with the same significant take-home, plus priority response time
Questions: DM me and we can call. Twitter (else whatsapp / email)
Reviews
A founder in SF had a lifelong block on romance stuck despite years of IFS therapy, retreats, and meditation. Months after working together:
Previously, I would freeze up or feel anxious about how I should act… Now I just express however I'm feeling in the moment
An engineer had lifelong social anxiety despite 8 years of therapy and 1 year of “seeking exposure to scary situations”. 6 months after our work together:
Every week I had some new ridiculous, fun, stupid project that I had others rallied around. It's exactly the stuff I kind of pictured doing but never really did.
A rationalist had lifelong anxiety despite talk therapy, CBT, and IFS with multiple licensed therapists. 1 year after working together:
I used to get triggered by very small things… Now I just laugh…
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I Am Not A Therapist. This service supports personal growth and professional development; it is not therapy or medical treatment. Confidentiality: Information shared is used to improve practice; identifying details always remain confidential.